To the man I choose to love, and leave

Dear Husband: You’ve given me about a million reasons to walk away, in the words of Lady Gaga. My one reason to stay—our son—may be a big one, but it’s the wrong one. We got here because we screwed up. Yeah, you royally screwed up, but if I’m going to be painfully honest, there were […]

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Doing tradition without a tribe

It’s strange how the holidays come at the same time every year, but yet they still sneak up on me. Suddenly, there are 400 versions of “Santa Baby” on the radio, and apparently Clark Griswold moved in next door to me — who the heck pays this man’s electric bill? Everyone’s all Christmas-cooking crazed, but […]

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Is love all you really need? Surviving postpartum depression.

I love motherhood, but it doesn’t love me. That was the message I was telling myself to try to maintain some semblance of sanity. I just wasn’t cut out for it and it wasn’t my fault. Some women are naturally called to be mothers, some aren’t. I feared I fell into the latter category. But, […]

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